About Mental Depression

Depressed man

Leaving the bar past midnight after a time out with the boys, Francis waltzes to his Porsche ride gets in, and drives off. A picture of suave sophistication,  he looks an epitome of success owning a conglomerate of viable businesses. He arrives home to an empty living room and checks the kitchen to find his meal in the microwave. In anger, he punches the wall and walks to his bedroom where he shouts his wife out of her sleep asking why his food is not freshly cooked. In anger, she responds to him asking how he comes home late to expect to find her awake preparing a meal. In a fit of anger, he punches the pillow next to her and stutters about how women are ingrates and worthless. Picking a Moet from the fridge, he hits the bottle and sleeps on the couch – one of many nights in a row.

Depressive State

You see, Francis has a flip side of what is referred to as mummy issues. Having been abandoned by his mother as a young boy, he views women with suspicion and distrust, and though, seemingly happily married, the slightest provocation from his wife brings out the bitterness and pain of abandonment which he disguises as aggressive anger. Francis is depressed from years of suppressing his bitterness and pain. His successful and flashy lifestyle is a smokescreen to cover his highly depressed state.

Though not immediately recognizable as depression,  aggressive anger is a sign of depression in men. Although men are as likely to become as depressed as women, depression is more obvious with women. This is because, in women, it manifests outwardly in form of mood swings, binge eating, weight changes, and menstrual irritability.

Stress, sickness, and major lifestyle changes are some of the triggers of mental depression. Peer pressure and cyberbullying can also lead to mental depression especially in adolescents. However, while some depressive states cannot be clinically diagnosed, most people suffer from depression and overcome it without any negative side effects while others need to seek professional counseling to come out of theirs.

Research Shows

That depression starts around 32.5 years of age and is prevalent in adults between 18 and 25 years old. 8.7% of women have depression while 5.3% of men suffer depression. According to verywellmind.com, depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide. The total economic burden of depression is estimated to be $210.5 billion per year. 48% to 50% of the economic costs are attributed to absences from work as well as decreased productivity caused by depression while 45% to 47% of the costs are due to medical expenses, such as outpatient and inpatient treatment or the costs of medication.

In conclusion, 

Depression is treatable and can be overcome. The first step is acknowledging that it is real and facing the facts then getting professional help to get out of that depressive state.

HEALTHY PRACTICES TO IMPROVING A HEALTHY SEX LIFE

One’s sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health, whether the problem is big or small, there are many things you can do such as communicating with your partner, maintaining a healthy lifestyle etc. you can do to get your sex life back on track.

Sex entails a whole lot of emotions, from love to excitement, to tenderness, longing, anxiety and disappointment with each of these reactions varying as sexual experiences differs in the course of a sex life spanning over several decades amongst individuals, likewise, the physical transformations your body undergoes as you age also have a major influence on one’s sexuality as declining hormone levels, changes in neurological and circulatory functioning etc. may lead to sexual problems.   However, there’s great news, as treating sexual problems is easier now than ever before with revolutionary medications and professional therapists available if you need them.

In the case of minor sexual issues or you just want general principles to work with, here are a few tips and adjustments in no particular order that you can try and implement at home in your lovemaking and relationship overall:

Talking to your partner: Good communication is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship, establishing a dialogue is the first step not only to a better sex life. Many couples find it difficult to talk about sex even under the best of circumstances as when sexual issues occur, feelings of hurt, shame, guilt, disappointment and resentment can set in and stop such conversations. In dealing with this, finding the right time to talk without criticizing your partner is extremely important as the aim is to solve the issue not apportion blames. Confiding with your partner about changes in your body, as well as being honest about it and any other thing is very crucial between partners.

Never equate love with sexual performance: Create an atmosphere of love, show care and tenderness always towards your partner; touch and kiss often, don’t blame yourself or your partner for your sexual difficulties instead focus on maintaining emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship.

Always maintain physical affection: Even if you’re tired, upset or tensed, about a problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond, it shows your partner that regardless of what, you are always there.

Educate yourself: There are plenty of good self-help materials and resources available that can apply to you or your partner’s issues, or rather be of help to improve yourself; use them to help you and your partner stay informed and become better.

Always compliment your partner: Complimenting your partner can be a way of letting them know they are thought about and appreciated, especially when your partner’s love language is “Words of affirmation.” Value-based compliments are also considered important because you’re directly complimenting your partner’s character,

Be spontaneous: As regards to lovemaking, using foreplay and trying different positions not only adds interest to lovemaking but can also help overcome some sexual problems. For example, did you know that there is increased stimulation to the G-spot when a man enters his partner from behind and can help your woman reach orgasm? Now you know, also, having romantic treats can aid strengthen the bond between you two emotionally, remember sex entails emotions too.

Have a good balance: Stress and the busyness of life are other factors that affect sexual intimacy, always find the time to relax, go on outings, and do something soothing together before having sex, such as playing a game or going out for a nice dinner.

Abstain a bit: Practice abstinence for a couple of days, a weekend, or a week as abstinence does make the heart grow fonder and it’s a surefire way to improve sex as it makes your next encounter with your lover even more exciting.

Maintaining good health: Remember, your sexual well-being goes hand in hand with your overall mental, physical, and emotional health, therefore, the same healthy habits you rely on to keep your body in shape also shapes up your sex life, drink water regularly, take vitamins and engage in exercises.

Engage in kegel exercises: Kegel exercises are simple clench-and-release exercises that you can do to strengthen the muscles of your pelvic floor, as these muscles support your uterus, bladder, small intestine, and rectum. Kegels keep the muscles fit and help even improve your orgasms; they can also prevent or control urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor problems.

Practice self-care: Self and proper hygiene are highly essential as regards to one’s love life, please, no one would enjoy anything lovemaking in a dirty environment or with one having bad hygiene. Look good, smell nice for your partner as these are known to promote positive attraction towards each other.

Don’t give up: If none of your efforts seems to work, don’t give up hope, talking to your doctor or a therapist can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments.

The most important thing is doing things right with your partner and staying true as the understanding of yourself, your thoughts about what constitutes a satisfying sexual connection, and your relationship with your partner are key factors in your ability to develop and foster a fulfilling sex life.

Are you having issues identifying any of the aforementioned or you have a problem, you can contact us and get directed to one of our wellness consultants by booking an appointment with us today.

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